Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Marriage woes.

Before the both of us even got engaged, we actually attended a pre marital course. CLICK if you're keen.

Most of the couples who were attending the course were engaged so initially, I felt a little out of place there. . . but the reason why I decided on going for the course was because I was fearful about marriage. I kid you not.

If there was one topic that we'd argue alot about, it would be - the ROOT of all evil. Spending habits. Needs vs Wants. Financial contribution to the household. Second after that, would be the issue of a domestic helper. Household chores *brrrr*

I grew up with a domestic helper whilst he didn't and we'd continuously bicker about it... but thank God that this is all in the past. We're on the same frequency now (or so I think).

Anyways, the course was a whole load of fun. I personally felt that the takeaway from the course was invaluable. It was a journey of self discovery and discovering one another (possibly things that you never knew about your partner).

From this course, you can discover your relationship weaknesses and also what steps you could possibly take to resolve it. It can help you to resolve conflict. This course helps you to nip problems in the bud - especially for those who have been sweeping their problems under the rug.

The course is an avenue to bring your problems and frustrations to the table, to confront it and to resolve it. It may not be resolved overnight, but at least you know that you have 'homework' to do with your relationship and it's up to the both of you whether you want to make it work.

As for the both of us, through this course, we realized that we knew each other SO well BUT we just refused to change our ways.  Also, my fear about marriage was dispelled because I managed to prepare myself (mentally) that marriage isn't as scary as I thought it to be after all.

I won't be a maid after marriage. Phew. Hehehe. I KID.

P.S. Mike, please do not comment on this post. TQVM.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Just some good ol' fried chicken

Valentine's Day was spent with me rushing home
to cook a simple meal for Mike.

Fried chicken & mashed potato with corn and mushrooms.
Actually, I know that it sounds pretty simple to make
BUT the mess that I made in the kitchen
to prepare this was bad -_-

I can't imagine how it'd be like having to clean up after that
because I was exhausted after preparing + cooking
(even WITH the help of a domestic helper).

I know that this is a first world problem and I'm ashamed of it . . .
because I've been giving other people sh*t on their first world problems.
LOL. Sorry guys :P

I really can't imagine myself cooking at home after work.
Not at this point in time.

I really admire those who can cook a meal for their family AFTER work (without a domestic helper).

If you're wondering what are the stringy 'condiments' on the chicken and on the side, it's deep fried ginger (just because Mike loves ginger).

Earlier, I wanted to cook ginger + wine chicken but it was just too tough
given the short time I had to prepare.

Apart from the 'funny' thing that happened on V-day (which I shared on Instagram) *ahem*,
another 'funny' thing that night was when I offered Mike ice-cream :

"Do you want ice-cream?"
"Why of course!!!! Give me alot!"

*takes out a tub of Walls ice-cream*

"Walls ice-cream? I want a little."
"WTH! What's wrong with Walls ice cream?"
"I thought that your ice cream was homemade so I wanted alot."

I'm not THAT free to make ice-cream okay... Pfffft.

Saturday, February 15, 2014

The calorific week

So CNY, came and went just.like.that.
2014 needs to hold its horses.

I've been thinking that maybe, just maybe -
I should have gotten a wedding planner.

But I keep telling myself that I have just a LITTLE bit more to do.
I can do it! I see the finishing line.
I can make it and I WILL make it.

Anyways, just thought of posting up some pictures of some mouth watering food that I've managed to devour over the CNY festivities . .

I wish I could have this all over again.

Sunday, February 9, 2014

2014 Reunion Dinner

It sure has been awhile since my family sat down for a table of 5 for a meal together. And the beauty of the Reunion Dinner is that is brings everybody together.

I have been reminded that this will be the 'last' reunion dinner with my family because I will be getting married this year.

I think that with all the happiness of starting a new life with the 'love of my life', the inevitable sadness is having to part with the family that I have been living with for more than 20 years of my life.


However, the silver lining that I use to comfort myself with :

1) Mike's house is 5 minutes away from my parents' house
2) I'll be going back for dinner often because I won't have the time to cook :P

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Every year, we'll add our own sliced pear to the lou sang. Makes it even more delicioussss.

It which shall not be named.

Some fish with pomelo and orange sauce

Pork ribs

Glutinous rice, abalone and pumpkin

Family pic

Saturday, February 8, 2014

Friday lunch

A public holiday that falls on Friday = Set Lunch Friday day :)

Lunch @ Cilantro
a couple of weeks ago.

I have always wanted to dine here since years ago.
So YAY because I managed to cross this place out from my list.

Freshly baked bread

Truffle butter

Buckwheat tagliolini with Wagyu Tartare

Grilled scallop with stuffed zucchini flower

Tasmanian Ocean Trout

Roasted Lamb "Basquaise"

Fig tossed with caramelized walnut
Lunch was good. However, it made us VERY very sleepy after that.
Always happens after a 3 course meal :P

Monday, February 3, 2014

More volume please.

Many have been asking how's the wedding preparations coming along.
And I've been telling them the same thing -
that it's at a standstill.

I can barely find the time to sit down and plan.
Shorthanded at work :(

Mike and I sat down over lunch one day
to list down the things that are still pending
and the list sure is LONG.

And with time ticking away,
my palms get sweaty occasionally (no joke)
whenever I think of the little details.

However, I read some wedding advice online that advised not to fret over the small details
because chances are that people won't even notice it.

It's just the bridezilla who has a microscopic view of perfection.

This is true to a certain extent because I can't even remember
half of the weddings that I've attended.

I guess that I've been stressed out over the expectations
I have on what I want after seeing pictures of
so many beautiful weddings online.

I need to remind myself on how God
has provided sufficiently for me as it now
and that my greed will probably strike me down.

For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh
and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—
is not from the Father but is from the world. (1 John 2:16)

End of the day, I need to remind myself
what this "wedding" is really about
and what this union truly means to us
and the commitment that we will be undertaking
for the rest of the days of our lives.
It's alright to want a nice wedding
but when it comes to a point
that you're obsessing over everything
and thinking of spending too much of your savings
on just ONE day, leaving you with very little savings for the future. . . 
is just not worth it.

Live within your means and all will be good.

Perhaps I should stop dreaming
about the idea of hundreds of fresh flowers :P

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Was looking at wedding hair inspirations and I love the following styles :

I love this hairstyle the best.
But it could be the pretty model that makes this style look extra good.

As you can see, I'm into beehive hair *super love*
I wish that I was blessed with thick and voluminous hair.